My current series about creating a roadmap for better manhood continues by expanding on my last post, First, Manage Yourself Well. In that post, I explained that learning to manage oneself well was an important first step toward becoming a man. While the skills men need have changed over time, mastering some basic financial skills is very important since just about everything in life these days revolves around money. No, money is not the “be all, end all,” but managing your finances well is critical since it reflects your priorities and how you show up as a mature man in this world.
The Early Road to a Better Manhood
As I’ve suggested in other posts in the series, this roadmap begins with A Man’s Identity; knowing who he is as a man, and knowing that he is a child of God with a Purpose as a Man that is important. In other posts, I stated his identity and purpose are shaped by his Worldview, which shapes how he uses his Masculinity Properly to fulfill his responsibilities as a mature and proper man. This maturity comes when a young male learns to manage himself well and develop personal disciplines such for:
- Setting Goals
- Creating Good Habits
- Learning to Prioritize
- Developing Self-Discipline
- Seeking Constructive Feedback
- Learnings from Mistakes
- Becoming Self-Aware
These disciplines apply to every skill that will follow in the part of the series; in how he manages his money and time, in his personal grooming habits, and in how he organizes his life and belongings. These apply to how he manages his behavior and communication, his education and employment, and his transportation needs. They help him navigate his relationships and domestic life (household). These disciplines help him with problem-solving/decision-making and planning/goal-setting. They help him move from building successes in his life and career as moves toward a life of significance. They help him finish strong and leave behind a legacy in which his family and friends speak highly of him after he dies. These disciplines strengthen the skills young males need to become better men.
Let’s begin with the first of the skills a young man needs on the road to manhood: managing his money.
Basic Money Skills
As a young man moves into manhood, he changes from being a consumer to being a producer. This means he shifts his focus from simply consuming goods and services, to actively creating and producing them. He develops a strong work ethic that helps him develop skills and attitudes that lead to personal and professional success. As he matures, he learns to take initiative, be creative, and manage his spending and savings. He advances in his career to maximize his earning potential. He learns to take calculated risks with his finances. Mature men become good stewards of their resources.
Basic money management includes creating a budget, tracking expenses, saving money, investing wisely, and avoiding debt. A budget helps you understand your income and expenses by setting financial goals. Tracking expenses help you identify areas where money is being spent unnecessarily. Saving money involves putting aside a portion of your income for the future and allocating a portion to give charitably. Saving and wisely investing at an early age helps you grow wealth over time. Avoiding debt involves living within your means and not taking on more debt than can be comfortably repaid.
Educate Yourself About Money
Today, men have a variety of ways to educate themselves about money. Understand how to create a budget and track expenses to truly understand their spending habits. Learn to manage debt and build short-term savings to avoid unexpected financial emergencies. Grasp the basic investing concepts of stocks, bonds, and mutual funds to help build long-term wealth.
There are numerous books, articles, podcasts, blogs, and financial tools on personal finance and investing. Attend seminars and workshops, take online or in-person courses, or seek advice from financial experts. Start slow but be a continual learner.
Recommendations
Personally, I found Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University one of the most helpful for money management courses since it dispels many of the myths about credit cards and FICO scores (a rating of your creditworthiness), and how to avoid debt. It also provides some tools for budgeting and investing that every person, young or old, can use. I’ve taken Dave Ramsey’s course a few times and wish I would have been more serious about my money when I was younger.
I’ve also used several software tools such as Quicken and Microsoft Money to track my expenses over the years. More recent tools like Mint, NerdWallet, LearnVest, Birdy, and DailyWorth are becoming more widely used. Some people still use the old envelope method for managing cash outlays. Try some of these methods to see which fits your style best. But start building financial discipline early by tracking your expenses and use this simple reminder: Save more than you spend!
As you get older and accumulate more wealth, consider using a financial advisor for guidance on investing, college tuition planning, insurance protection, and retirement planning. Advisors act as personal financial mentors, offering tailored plans for your future and helping with big financial decisions. They can also guide you on the risks and rewards of stocks, bonds, mutual funds, real estate, and crypto assets.
Is Money Your #1 Priority?
Let’s next consider an important concept about money.
As I stated previously, a man’s worldview influences his views of money and how he uses it. For many, accumulating as much money as possible is their primary driver. However, how you spend your money actually reflects what is most important in your life. It reflects your priorities.
Let me explain.
One retreat I attended poses three crucial questions to ask yourself when it comes to identifying your priorities:
- What do you think about?
- How do you use your money?
- What do you do with your time?
These important questions reflect your priorities. Do you think about how to make money all the time? If so, take a quick inventory of your “stuff.” Review the last 30 checks you have written. What priorities do those reflect? Pay attention to how much you think about money and where you spend it. Where you spend your time and money shows what’s most important to you.
I wrote a post previous to this series about Re-Prioritizing My Priorities since I need to make an adjustment. I now believe that keeping your priorities in order is one of the biggest Challenges Men Face. When a man’s priorities are out of whack –especially with how he spends his money, his life may not go as well. But managing your finances well is critical to proper manhood.
GodBuddy Focus
Although everyone should learn to manage their money well, mature men with a biblical view of money think differently about their finances. They know that Scripture teaches that money itself is not evil, but that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. In fact, the Bible contains more than 2,000 verses about money. It teaches that we cannot serve both God and money (Matthew 6:24) and that we should not wear ourselves out trying to get rich (Proverbs 23:4-5). It also teaches that whoever loves money will never have enough (Ecclesiastes 5:10). Godly men keep money from becoming their main priority.
Scripture also teaches that money is a gift from God and is to be used wisely and for His purposes. The Bible encourages us to be good stewards of our finances, avoid greed and materialism, and give generously to those in need. We are encouraged to “store up treasures in heaven” (Matthew 19:21-26) by investing in our relationships and spreading the gospel message of Jesus Christ. Godly men know that wealth and possessions are temporary and meaningless in light of eternity.
For discussion:
- How well do you manage your money? In what areas do you need improvement: budgeting and tracking expenses? Building an emergency fund? Retirement savings? Investments?
- Has your priority become making as much money as possible? Or do you trust that God will provide and take care of all your needs?
- Who can help you develop goals to build financial stability? Who can teach you about biblical stewardship?
Leave your comments below about this topic. Forward this post to someone else and get together with them to discuss the topic. Make sure you read my next post in this series in two weeks.
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