Author: Rich Gorecki

Many Boys and Men are Struggling

My last post described the Sigma Male, a slang term for a primarily male archetype romanticized for its independence and self-reliance. Sadly, too many men have adopted this mindset to detach from traditional social hierarchies, responsibilities, and relationships. This post describes the ways boys and men are struggling today and why better friendships can help overcome this isolation and “lone wolf” mentality. Males are Falling Behind Despite what many in the media and culture believe, statistics show that boys and men in the United States today are failing. Males of all ages are falling behind girls and women educationally, economically, and on many indicators of social well-being. Since the 1970s, boys have struggled to learn properly in elementary school and high school. Young men are now far less likely than women to attend or graduate from college with the ratio approaching two female undergraduates for every one male. Many males

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Is It Good To Be A Lone Wolf?

I recently stumbled across a new concept called the Sigma Male. Apparently, it’s a slang term used on the internet and in schools to describe a new-age “lone wolf” male. The Sigma mindset has gained traction due to its independence and self-reliance. But is this isolating approach a good thing for men? Is it creating a culture of immature males who are detached from traditional social hierarchies and void of deeper relationships. This post explains the differences in the various male archetypes and why men really need better friendships to avoid becoming a Sigma Male.  Understanding Male Personality Types Scholars and pop culture often categorize male personalities into seven main archetypes by Greek letter such as Alpha, Beta, Delta, Gamma, Omega, Zeta, and now Sigma Males (Read more in From Alpha to Omega: A Guide to the 7 Male Personalities which describes these personality traits, careers at which each would

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Friends Help Each Other Find Balance  

This series about Becoming a Well-Balanced Man concludes with a post about how better friendships can help men learn proper balance which is critical to mature manhood. Earlier posts covered The Benefits of Becoming a Balanced Man and how steadiness and stability (synonyms for balance) in our emotional, mental, and physical health, our financial and social life, and spirituality can help us find peace, contentment, and purpose. This last post contains the practical ways that friendships that help create mature men who learn balance, rather than the immature and unbalanced “boys” we see too often in the world today.    Better Friends = Better Men My book Get Out of Your Man Cave: The Crisis of Male Friendships provides practical ways to develop closer, more genuine relationships that help us become better men. Written as part guidebook, part memoir, and part confessional, the book comes out of my struggle with workaholism

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