Category: Basic Training

New Language for Male Friendship

To kick off my eighth full year of writing this blog, I want to sharpen the focus of this quest to build better friendships by developing some common language you can use. I’ll start by developing a creed or core statement about my beliefs about how we help each other become better men. I’ll follow that with a broader declaration or manifesto to inspire the much-needed challenge to the norms about male friendships.  Future posts will include the action items to build an inner circle of friends and a guided journey to strengthen those bonds. I will also create an easy-to-remember shared brotherhood covenant to help your commitment to build men who help each other become better men. Always Begin with the ‘Why’ American author and inspirational speaker, Simon Sinek, believes that great leaders and organizations inspire action by communicating clearly. They state their purpose (the ‘Why’) before their methods

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The (Friendship) Problem with Ai 

Depending on your occupation (teachers either like it or hate it), demographic (OK, Boomer!), or financial strategy (Nvidia investors), Artificial Intelligence (Ai or AI) can be scary or exciting. I’m on the fence about whether Ai is good or bad (probably both) and use it occasionally for idea-generation and images for this blog, so I was intrigued when I recently read that Time Magazine named Ai the ‘Person of the Year.’  Ai as a ‘person.’ WHAT??? Digging deeper (as we should for anything we see in media these days), Time actually named the “Architects of AI” as ‘Person of the Year’ and has used two images for the cover of the magazine (Yes, it’s still in print!). One shows current tech leaders, Meta CEO Mark Zuckerberg, OpenAI CEO Sam Altman, Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang, and a few others, sitting on the steel beam resembling the iconic

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Concluding My Case for Better Male Friendships

Now that I have finished presenting my evidence for 2025 as the year for Better Male Friendships, it’s time to summarize the case. Throughout this series, I’ve attempted to convince you that every man needs friends who help him become a better man. I also suggested the best version of a friend is the deeper, more authentic type I call GodBuddies. No matter whether you consider yourself secular, just spiritual, or even religious, this information can help you build higher-quality friendships. This overview of my case includes links to each post, which is largely based on excerpts from my book, Get Out of Your Man Cave: The Crisis of Male Friendships. Of course, I would be forever grateful if you would buy a copy of the book. It contains personal reflection prompts and small group study questions for each chapter. You can purchase it from Amazon here or contact me

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