Author: Rich Gorecki

This series about a man’s emotions continues with the emotion of Sadness. The last two posts about Anger and Fear were preceded the “Why”, the “How”, and the “What” of managing our emotions to become more godly men. In this post, I’ll dive into the emotion of sadness, which became personal for me several years ago.  Sadness Defined There are multiple levels of sadness, each with varying degrees and physiological states requiring deeper levels of care.  Dictionary.com defines Sadness as the quality or state of being sad or an instance of sorrow. According to Psychology Today, sadness is a normal human emotion usually triggered by a difficult, hurtful, challenging, or disappointing event, experience, or situation.  In other words, we feel sad about something or some situation.  In many cases, feelings of sadness will go away quickly and you can go about your daily life. Another word for sadness is Melancholy, which

This series about a man’s emotions started with posts on “Why” we need to manage our emotions, “How” God’s gift of emotions became distorted, and “What” we are to do to become more godly men. The last post on Anger describes the effects on our brain and our relationships.  In this post, I write about our emotion of Fear.  The Fear of Being “Enough”  In his article, This is the Single Man’s Greatest Fear, Ben Weaver suggests that men live as if we are “not enough”. We’re not good enough, smart enough, good-looking enough, athletic enough, strong enough, loveable enough, successful enough. Fear of failure—of failing to be a man, leads to men to ask: “Am I enough”? Weaver states the world’s ever-moving bar of excellence has taught us that we’ve got to somehow stifle the most powerful organ in our body – our heart when it comes to our

The three posts after the introduction in this current series focused on “Why” men need to manage their emotions, “How” God’s gift of emotions became distorted, and “What” do with our emotions to become more godly men. In this next post, I get into the first of the 8 emotions that I believe men need to learn how to manage: our Anger.  Anger is one of the most challenging emotions for men, especially since it is most often associated with negative reactions leading to poor choices, damaged relationships, and sometimes even violence. Unfortunately, many men never learned to experience and express anger in a healthy manner. They use anger to hide their hurt and fear because those aren’t considered “manly” emotions. Unhealthy anger gives us the illusion of maintaining power or control but it actually conceals our true feelings and blinds our ability to identify the wrong that’s been done.