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Loneliness: a Huge Threat to our Health

January 4, 2019 No Comments

My last post, Where did all our friends go? walked through how our friends change in childhood, college, and as couples throughout our life. For men, in particular, the loss of close friendships often leads to isolation and dealing with the stress of life in unhealthy ways. Often we deal with it all alone! Loneliness is Killing us A 2017 Boston Globe article by Billy Baker titled, The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness. is the story of every man. Baker describes men in particular as cut off from their friendships by being over-scheduled pursuing the great American dream, the demands of work and family, of carpools and commutes. This applies to older men but it appears in rising numbers in younger men too. Our Mask Doesn’t Help My experience is that a large majority of men prevent their friends from really knowing them due

Where Did All My Friends Go?

January 2, 2019 No Comments

In my opening post, I stated men need better friendships or what I call a “God Buddy”. This is an authentic and genuine friendship with two or three guys who can help you become a better man. So how did I lose the good friends of my younger days? Our Childhood Friends As kids, we had multiple childhood friends with whom we played baseball, and kick-the-can, and did just about everything together. We then went to middle school and on to high school with some of the same guys, likely pursuing the same girls, competing with each other, and basically getting into trouble together. Our College Buddies After high school, we went on to college where we learned some new things (both good and bad!). We made some new and different friends. We graduated, tried to keep in contact with our fraternity brothers, and may have made a few superficial softball, bowling,

Welcome to my GodBuddy blog!

December 27, 2018 No Comments

In today’s fast-paced world, the need for genuine connections, especially among men, has never been more crucial. I refer to this type of relationship as “GodBuddies” – deeper, more authentic friendships with other men that offer support, celebrate achievements, offer prayers during tough times, and provide the necessary accountability for personal growth. Through this blog, I aim to offer practical guidance on fostering such friendships that aid in creating better men. More godly men. I coined the term “GodBuddies” (GBs for short) over a decade ago. It came from my personal need for deeper bonds and support during my struggle with workaholism that teetered on depression. Drawing inspiration from Proverbs 27:17, I saw the metaphor of iron sharpening iron correlated to the concept of mutual improvement among men. Just as two pieces of iron sharpen each other through friction, men can refine one another’s character through mutual support and accountability.