Category: Biblical Support

The MANual to Downshift and Refocus

As we enter a new year, it’s time to refocus on what’s important. It’s time to change the pace of life by “downshifting”, per se, in order to focus on becoming a more godly man. This year, I’m asking you to join me on a journey of intentionally pursuing God and the good life He offers. In Reflections on Year 2 of God Buddies, I explained how the first 12 months of writing this blog to refine my thoughts about why men need deeper, more authentic friendship. Of course, last year was unexpectedly different for most due to the coronavirus pandemic. This led to last year’s posts about adjusting to change, the emotional and physical health of men, and how God Buddies support each other during a really tough year.   So this year is about focusing on our journey as men. Like fixing a car or putting something together, it

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All Men Need “Helpers”

In my last post, I indicated that many guys are bad at taking care of “their sh*t” and owning up to their responsibilities. This goes beyond having the basic “man-skills” or “manning up” to go it alone. It means recognizing when we need help. But can a woman be a man’s “helper” and supporter? Look, I’m a big fan of guys having male friendships but we also need strong women in our lives. As wives, as close friends, and as family. Before anyone gets bent out of shape by my use of the term, “helper”, let me define the term since it is often misconstrued, misstated, and far from biblical truth.  The Biblical Truth: Man Needs Help There are many people who believe and incorrectly teach that the term “helper” used for the first created woman suggests an idea of “employee” or a “servant” or a “domestic helper” or that the

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Traits of a GB Relationship: Summary

To conclude this series on the unique traits of a God Buddy relationship below is a brief summary of all the traits together. I’d ask that you reflect on which of the traits are helping you deepen your friendships and which need more of your attention.  As you learned in the prior post on Teachability, when men become disciples, we can become the men that God intended. So use this series to work on yourself so you can also help your God Buddy!  In my opening post with the Introduction to Traits of a GB Relationship, I explained some basic differences between male and female friendships. Male-male friendships tend to be more “tactical” or “transactional” Female-female friendships are more nurturing and based on emotions. Men are usually side-by-side while women are face-to-face. Women invest more time maintaining their friendships whereas men move to the next task quickly and don’t feel

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