Author: Rich Gorecki

Traits of a GB Relationship: Demonstrating Vulnerability, Authenticity, and Transparency

This current series on the traits of a God Buddy relationship is describing the characteristics that help us develop deeper friendships to become better men. In prior posts, we learned that Finding Commonality leads to Developing Trust in emerging friendships. You then request complete Confidentiality to get to the next phase in your God Buddy relationship.  The next trait is Demonstrating Vulnerability, Authenticity, and Transparency, which means exposing your weaknesses and sins to someone in order to begin the process of emotional and spiritual healing. First, let’s separate the three words: Vulnerability, Authenticity, and Transparency to define what each actually means.  The Same but Different According to this post (written from a perspective for creative people but very applicable to maturing friendships), being vulnerable, authentic, and transparent helps you cultivate meaningful connections with other human beings. But what is the difference between each of these three traits? Vulnerability The word

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Traits of a GB Relationship: Confidentiality

This series of posts about the unique Traits of a God Buddy relationship describes the characteristics that help men develop deeper friendships, which helps them become better men. The first trait of Finding Commonality leads to Developing Trust; the second trait. Paired with Trust is a characteristic that is absolutely necessary for a deep, meaningful GB relationship: Confidentiality. It probably goes without stating but I will anyway….one of the most basic rules of friendships of any kind is you must never break a friend’s confidences. Here are some definitions to consider: Confidentiality [ kŏn′fĭ-dĕn′shē-ăl′ĭ-tē]; Confidential [ kŏn′fĭ-dĕn′shē-ăl ]Noun: the state of keeping or being kept secret or private.Adjective: Spoken, written, acted on, etc., in strict privacy or secrecy; secret, a confidential remark Indicating confidence or intimacy; imparting private matters. Having another’s trust or confidence; entrusted with secrets or private affairs. In my previous post about Developing Trust, I indicated that during the early stages of a maturing friendship is when you should let your new friend know you are allowing them inside

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Traits of a GB Relationship: Developing Trust

This current series of posts about the Traits of a God Buddy Relationship describes the unique characteristics that can help men make and keep better friendships while also overcoming the barriers that make it difficult to share our emotions, feelings, and fears. The first post was about Finding Commonality. This next trait is about Developing Trust. Let’s start first with a definition of Trust. Trust [truhst]Noun: Reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. Confident expectation of something; hope.Verb (used without object): To rely upon or place confidence in someone or something. To trust in another’s honesty; trusting to luck. –excerpts from Dictionary.com Today, we live in a world where friendship is defined by the number of acquaintances and followers on our Facebook page or Instagram feed. While social networks can help us stay connected at some level, they’re hardly the building blocks of a close relationship. In my post Where Did All My Friends Go?, I suggested that we’re so stretched and overscheduled with work, classes,

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