Category: Wisdom for Men

In my experience, one of the biggest lies for men is that we’re supposed to “have it all together”. But when someone asks us how we’re doing, we just smile and tell them, “fine.” But are we? Throughout this pandemic, we’ve heard stories and stories about the struggles with mental health, whether it’s due to the need for our kids to be in schools or the athletes who are publicly naming their battle with the pressures of their fame. Well, it’s time to tell the truth. Everyone needs a small group of people with whom we can share our darkest secrets and be honest about our struggles. I call these GodBuddies; friends who are not judgmental and will support and encourage you when life feels like it is out of control. One of my GB’s recently shared this video below that I hope will encourage you today to not hide

‘The very worst advice I have ever heard is to live every day as if it is the last. It’s likely that the decisions you make would be horrible, and you would be stuck with them for a very long time.’ The above quote comes from a post about Psalm 90 that I want to use for this week’s Weekend Wisdom. The quote suggests the YOLO (You Only Live Once) mantra is actually bad advice. It can leave you with regrets about living that haphazardly rather than incorporating God’s plans for the number of days of your life. The post reminds us that this distorted and unliveable philosophy injects a false urgency into our life that ensures we only take the short-term view. Of course, there may well be times when we do know our days are short, such as when we have a terminal illness or are in advanced

This week’s Weekend Wisdom (my new name for the end of the week, in-between the main GB posts) comes from one of my heroes in the men’s ministry space, Patrick Morley of Man in the Mirror. Pat challenges us as men to look at our life to see if we are living with meaning and purpose. He writes “Perhaps the greatest weakness men currently face is that they tend to lead unexamined lives.” I also add one of my favorite quotes by Socrates, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Both quotes lead to the question, “Do I live according to the ways of the culture or do you live according to God’s Word?” In his post, Pat Morley describes a term called “Cultural Christianity” who are people that allow the culture to influence them more than the word of God. A cultural Christian tries to have the best of