Category: Friendships

A New Year, a New Language for Male Friendship

January 5, 2026 No Comments

To kick off my eighth full year of writing this blog, I want to sharpen the focus of this quest to build better friendships by developing some common language you can use. I’ll start by developing a creed or core statement about my beliefs about how we help each other become better men. I’ll follow that with a broader declaration or manifesto to inspire the much-needed challenge to the norms about male friendships. Future posts will include the action items to build an inner circle of friends and a guided journey to strengthen those bonds. I will also create an easy-to-remember shared brotherhood covenant to help your commitment to build men who help each other become better men. Always Begin with the ‘Why’ American author and inspirational speaker, Simon Sinek, believes that great leaders and organizations inspire action by communicating clearly. They state their purpose (the ‘Why’) before their methods

Remembering Chris Davolos

April 7, 2025 1 Comment

This past week was the anniversary of the passing of one of my earliest GodBuddies, Christopher J. Davolos, who died unexpectedly on April 1, 2014. Chris died a few days shy of his birthday on April 9 and would have been 68 years old next week. This next post in my series, The Year for Better Male Friendships, honors the man whose friendship embodied my GodBuddy concept and why I dedicated this website to Chris. It also explains one of the main principles: every man needs a good friend who encourages, supports, and challenges them to become a better man. Chris was a “Barnabas” In one of my earlier posts, Three Relationships Every Man Needs, I suggested that you need a Timothy, a Barnabas, and a Paul in your life. Based on the example of the Apostle Paul, the model suggests that every man needs an apprentice (Timothy), an

Every Man Needs Helpers

March 31, 2025 No Comments

In my last post, How Many Friends Can You Really Have?, I explained the brain science behind Dunbar’s Number for the number of people you can maintain as stable social relationships. I also suggested that we need fewer friends, rather than more acquaintances. This next post continues making my case for 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships to explain why men need help making friends. Man Needed Help As I have stated in several previous posts, the need for better friendships applies to everyone: male or female, married or single, religious or not. That said, my theory about man’s need for better friendships is based on several biblical principles. The first is that God created the world and humans perfectly, then said it “was good” (Genesis 1:27-31). However, our Creator concluded “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Knowing that, God created Eve as