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The first part of this two-part post titled, Fear is a Liar, I described the characteristics of this critical emotion for men, how fear lies to us, and suggested the several fears of most men. In this post, I explain the positive traits of fear and how having a healthy fear is crucial to living fully into your purpose as a mature adult male.  Men Fear Disappointment For many men, overcoming their fear is difficult. Fear is caused by our anticipation or belief that someone or something is dangerous and likely to cause pain or is a threat to us physically, emotionally, or psychologically. It distorts our perception of reality and manipulates our decision-making. It whispers negative thoughts and self-doubt in our ear. Fear can paralyze us when confronting tough choices. It makes us believe the worst-case scenarios, and prevents us from taking necessary risks. It makes us question our

One of the most critical emotions to overcome for men is fear. It is an emotion that lies to us and causes us to question everything about ourselves. In this first of a two-part post, I describe the characteristics of fear, how and why it lies to us, and the fears most men have. The subsequent post will explain some positive aspects of fear and how having a healthy fear can help you live fully and authentically as a mature adult male.  About Fear For many of us, fear of the unknown is crippling. Personally, I fear uncertainty and want to know what’s ahead of me so I like to be in control. It’s one of (many) faults.  As I wrote in an earlier series on Better Manhood Skills, Controlling Your Emotions, Fear is one of the eight emotions difficult for men to manage (The others include Anger, Sadness, Happiness,

I saw this quote from Alexis Carrell on Facebook recently that caused me to ponder it for much longer than normal. At first glance, the quote indicates man must endure hardship, pain, and suffering before they can heal. On the other hand, it begs the question: Why do we need to break ourselves down to improve? “Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.” –French surgeon, biologist and Noble Prize winner, Alexis Carrel (1873-1944) According to this post at Elevate Society, Carrell emphasizes that personal growth and transformation often comes at a cost. The metaphor of being both the marble and the sculptor suggests that we possess the raw material and the tools necessary to shape ourselves. Just as a sculptor must chisel away at the marble, Carrell suggests we must also face the pain and struggle that comes with self-improvement.  The Heart