Men Helping Men Become Better Men
Men Helping Men Become Better Men
Men Helping Men Become Better Men

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Reflections on Year 6: Too Many Men Are Still Failing

Since starting this blog, my practice has been to write an annual summary of the recent year’s posts. This year’s theme, “Wisdom for Men” was purposely geared to a more general audience of men, regardless of their religious affiliation or spirituality. But I realized there is still work to do. Despite what you read in the media, too many males are falling behind in school, at work, and in their families. They are struggling with loneliness, isolation, abuse, and addictions. Even after nearly 300 posts, self-publishing a book, and several speaking engagements, men still need deeper, more authentic friendships because the problems of boys and men persist. Males are Struggling   In his recent book, Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It, Richard Reeves examines the alarming trends well known to social scientists but not present in the

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Rethinking Your Parents’ Stories

My last two posts, The Pain of An Absent Father, and The Effects of Being Overly-Bonded with Mom described the impact of two “wounds” many men carry into adulthood. These wounds can affect our marriage, spouse, and children if left unaddressed. They also contribute to The Crisis of Fatherlessness in America. In this final post, I encourage you to view your parents’ stories from a new perspective and embrace forgiveness, which helps you heal to become a better husband and father.   Broken Boys Remain Hurting Males One of my heroes in the men’s ministry space is Dr. Patrick Morley, author of several books for men. Shortly after getting through my struggle with workaholism, I read Morley’s first book, The Man in the Mirror: Solving the 24 Problems Men Face. That book accelerated my journey to becoming a better man as I described in my 2019 post, Looking at the

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The Effects of Being Overly-Bonded with Mom

My last post, The Pain of An Absent Father, suggests ways to heal from the wound of not having a physically present and emotionally engaged dad. Another reason I believe we have a Crisis of Fatherlessness in America today is one many guys must resolve: their relationship with their mother. In this post, I describe the “Overly-Bonded with Mother” wound since it can impact his marriage, his children, and his friendships.   The “Enmeshed with Mom” Affect Also known as enmeshment or emotional entanglement, this wound is an unhealthy relationship that frequently lingers into adulthood. It develops when a boy becomes overly bonded with his mother as they share an intense emotional connection that blurs healthy boundaries into adulthood. This condition often starts with an absent or distant father but is inflicted by needy and hurting moms. It is also caused by “unwilling to release” types of moms, “fill in

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